Difference between loneliness & solitude

It's my start to the blogging world. Wish me good luck, guys!

As my present status is 'Solitude', i should start writing something about it first.

I love solitude. Even in my early childhood I liked to go off into another room away from my family and just be alone. I used to play alone with my 'magnet' pieces and so many other stuffs. I used to have many types of stones (which i get from my garden), seeds of tamarind etc. I play by myself with those 'precious' items.

I am sure if we are honest (if only to ourselves) there isn’t one of us, at some stage or other in our life, who hasn’t felt lonely. It is just that most of us don’t admit it. There seems to be a stigma attached to such an admission. It is as if to admit you are lonely is to admit that no-one wants your company, which is as good as saying you’re not likeable. No one wants to admit to that. It’s strange really, since when did being popular guarantee someone is a nice person?!!

Loneliness can be caused by the isolation or due to illness or disability, shyness, moving to a new area, starting a new job, losing someone close to you, feeling rejected, believing no-one cares, lacking social support - and a plethora of other reasons. Loneliness can occur even when you do have family and friends.

Now, what's the difference between loneliness and solitude? Solitude is usually self imposed, positive or constructive. Writers constantly seeks solitude. Sometimes, we like to have time and space to think uninterrupted by anyone or anything.

So can we move from loneliness to solitude? Is it just a state of mind? It is partly a state of mind - although it feels very real. I believe the way forward is to put meaningful things in your life. That sounds trite and simple - but it’s true. Do something for others - especially those who are needy. Whatever, make it something that will bring you into contact with other people who will appreciate and value your gift of time to them. Contact with people who value you cannot be under estimated. Loneliness often goes hand in hand with, or even creates, low self esteem. Build on that feeling of being valued and wanted, by setting yourself challenges week by week to increase your social support circle.